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If you just have a breakup, you must be wonder “why women leave men?”. If your woman doesn’t cerish the relationship anymore and has decided to end it, find out the genuine cause can be really hard. She might not even give you the real reason behind her decision to leave you and that will only make it even harder. You must put some serious efforts into it if you really want to know the real cause. Check out 3 factors that usually are the main reason of why women leave men:
1. A Change In The Relationship
Very often, women leave due to the fact that there’s been some kind of change between you, and it isn’t always an easy task to recognize this exact change down. But the majority of us have been there before: The relationship has lost its spark, it’s not fun anymore, the feeling is dead. It’s just like you’re friends now, and all that thrills is gone.
But you’re both wrong if you think that. Actually, that spark is there somewhere; it’s just buried under a bunch of junk. You guys have become bored and apathetic. Relationships take work, and you have to get that spark going again.
Some guys miss the point completely and say, “But we’re still having sex!” That may be a whole lot worse, and I will tell you exactly why. It’s because, if she feels like the love and pleasure are gone but you guys are still getting it on, she’ll feel like you’re only using her for sex.
2. You’re Not There When She Needs You
Women need support. LOTS of it. Men are usually more independent, but women need some support every once in awhile. Women need it much more than men. Support does not merely mean affection; it also means respect. You may not realize it, but you may be belittling her and not respecting her opinions. Women need to feel this respect, which implies you have to show it.
This occasionally happens because both of you simply too occupied for quality time together. When she wants to talk and you happen to be busy, she may think you’re brushing her off. What you should do here is spend a little more time with each other, and let her know that you respect her as an individual.
Women need affection, respect, compliment, encouragement and a shoulder to cry on. They need you to hear them and to apologize when you do something stupid. Sound like a lot? It is! But don’t forget, she’s your lover, partner, friend, support system and co-conspirator; she has to be all of that.
3. Significant Life Changes
Occasionally women leave because their life has changed and the guy’s life hasn’t. She’s moved on into a new zone in her life, and you’re still within the last one. It could be because you were not paying attention when the change emerged, or because you don’t want to follow her into this new phase of her life.
One big difference among men and women is that women look at everything in the long view, and men generally don’t. When I say “long view,” I am not talking about next week or even next month. I’m talking about many, many years in the future. If she’s thinking about the future and you’re not, this can cause some problems. If she’s looking at the future and you’re not in it, this is really serious.
You have to show her that you’re keeping up with her changes and planning your future together too. These life changes are like bumps in the road; they don’t have to totally throw you into the ditch. It is possible to weather the storm if you keep communicating with each other and keep supporting each other.
If you know why women leave men, it can help you keep your relationship in check. Remember these reasons and keep the doors of communication open, and you can fix your problems as they come up on you.
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What?? This is the most gender biased article I’ve ever read. Obviously you have done no research or used any facts to substantiate your views.
You simply assume that the female is superior and all fault and effort falls to the male. Trying to explain the complexity and intracacies of successful relationships by telling the man to give more to the woman and do everything to accomodate her life style, wants, needs, views or whims is absurd! It is sexist! It doesn’t account for any socio-economic variables or statistical information.
There are more assumptions than perspective by far here. What about when the woman can’t or won’t communicate? What about conditions such as work schedule conflict, children, mommy and daddy time or something mind blowing like the needs of the man? Stereotyping men while empowering the female with your personal views should be saved for your own ignorance and chat activities and not served up as advice.
Hi Baz,
I appreciate your concern and to be honest, a woman just accused me of being sexist as well for writing why men leave women.
My answer for yours is similar to hers: the article was originally written for men left by their women and still wondering what mistakes/blunders he made that end the relationship, thus the article was created as a list of self-examination points to prevent the same things from happening again in the future on another relationship. It probably with the same woman or with another.
That being said, I’m not saying that you must sacrifice yourself to win the love of your woman. If you’re an ambitious workaholic guy that spend 70 hours/week at the office and you got a clingy girlfriend who depends on you to make every little decision in her life, then the break up was probably the right thing to do.
It takes 2 to form and maintain a relationship and both of you have to make some compromises for the sake of it. In my opinion, these compromises are the one that make a relationship long-lasted.
i totally agreed with you, at least thus are the reasons i will leave my men, but do you have any solution for these?
Hi Rachel,
From the way you said it, it seems you’re ready to leave him and by ‘solution’ you mean how you can save the relationship.
I’d say the first thing to do is making him see the relationship the way you do. In other words, make him willing to commit more on the relationship. I suggest you read get him to commit for more in-depth advice in this area.