Love has been a universal value since time immemorial. It is an unwritten law that has governed everyone around the world. It has blossomed into many beautiful things, like the union of a man and woman who are in love with each other. So when we hear a woman shedding tears of betrayal, we end up asking, “Why do men have affairs?”
Below are four paragraphs that explain the reason behind the infidelity of husbands. After each paragraph are a couple of italicized questions that encourage wives to ponder on their marriage and consequently, prevent any straying possibility from happening.
Sometimes, when couples have been together for a long time, they forget to express how much they care for each other. When the wife seems not interested in his activities and ideas anymore, he diverts his attention to the company of his friends, drinking buddies and colleagues. One of these interactions might ignite an extramarital affair.
Have I been consistently showing my interest in the highlights and trivialities of his days? Do I make him aware of my high and low moments?
A man who feels unworthy of his spouse, who hasn’t accepted his true identity and who lacks self-esteem may resort to infidelity. If he can’t handle this healthily, he distracts himself from this negativity like seeing another woman. When he gets acknowledgment and appreciation from her, his ego boosts up and before he knows it, he’s hooked up with his unfaithful feelings. The betrayed wife then sulks and asks, “Why do men have affairs?”
How can I make him feel that I am proud of his talents, abilities and character? Do I make him feel we both deserve each other?
Every man expects something from his wife and their relationship. He may need sexual variety but she prefers only one position. He may want to spend a Friday night watching football with his buddies but she demands they should spend more time together. When these aren’t met, he enjoys the company of those who are more sensitive to his needs.
Do I allow my husband to communicate his desires and preferences in our relationship? Do we meet halfway to satisfy our needs?
Some men cheat to resolve their past issues. For example, those who married early never had enough of their teenage years so they’re easily tempted to go out with different women. Some probably grew up with a cheating father and unconsciously, he’s following his deeds. Some might have an ex-girlfriend who two-timed him and wandering from your marriage is the only revenge he knows.
In what ways can I help my husband process and cope up with his hurtful past experiences? Do I empathize with his agony and pain?
Having an extramarital affair is a sin that results to painful consequences. When a husband engages into this, he has committed a sin against all those who believe in his capacity to truly love. However, given the reasons above, it can be deduced that the question, “Why do men have affairs?” can be partly answered by how women sustain the relationship. Remember that both parties must work together for a successful marriage.