So you think love isn’t just about chemistry. You insist it’s physics too. For every time you pull yourself away from him, the same amount of force is pushing you back. It’s actually your mind and your heart arguing about what you should do. The former’s commanding you to forget him but the latter doesn’t consent. But in the end, when the heart cries out, “I want my ex boyfriend back,” the mind can’t resist. It only guides the heart in doing things the right way. Here are five steps that might help you grasp what you want.
Take a rest and focus on the internal force within you. Is it mild or heavy? Can you contain it or is it about to explode? Instead of minding external factors, heed the emotions in your heart. Remember that this is your issue, your process and your goal. It’s best resolved and implemented when you know what’s going on inside you.
Stand up against gravity.
Don’t let it trample you down to the ground in desperation as men find it senseless. If you do, you end up pleading while kneeling. When you’re kneeling, you look like a beggar. When you’re a beggar, your ex boyfriend will find you an eyesore to his eyes. So rise and use your feet. When you’ve walked past him, he will throw you a second look.
Save energy by exerting it in areas where it is consumed constructively. If you run after someone but are not able to catch him, you get tired and dispirited. But if you run for your health, you get reinvigorated because you are not chasing at all. Your physical aura will prove how healthy you are. When your ex sees you in good shape, he might spend his own energy in pursuing you again. In that case, there’s no need to say, “I want my ex boyfriend back.”
Distill your mind.
When you’re able to control your situation, purify your thoughts to objectively identify the reason of your breakup. How did you contribute to your own loss? Were you a nagger and a poor listener? Were you too emotional, sensitive, demanding and overprotective? Did your beating around the bush annoy him many times? Did you betray his loyalty and kindness? It’s good to admit your own mistakes. It’s better to forgive yourself for committing them.
If you’ve let go of the past, assess the present to predict the future. How is your positive self-concept affecting your ex? Does it awake the curious side of him? Does he invite you out with your other common friends to know your updates subtly? Or is he dating his colleague you secretly got jealous with before? As a woman, use your intuition to determine if there’s still a probability of being together again. If there is, get excited and continue to hope. If there’s none, cheer up. The best is yet to come.
In working out the entire i-want-my-ex-boyfriend-back process, remember that love is all about making decisions. From the moment you choose to love him until the time you choose to win him back, you’re always in-charge of yourself. The choices you make are vital to your desired reconciliation. So think wisely and feel sincerely.
Remember: there is no need to lower yourself to gain his attention once again.
Now that you’re calmed down, read How to get a guy to like you again for actual actions to take.
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