“My boyfriend dumped me,” she revealed with mixed emotions on her face.
There can be many reasons why a man would dump a woman. It can be as lame as changes in physical appearance. It can also be as pain inflicting as inability to get into serious commitment and infidelity. Whatever reason a man has, it breaks the heart of every woman. Being dumped doesn’t only mean changing the status in your Facebook account. It also means bearing the pain of rejection and discomfort of losing the known. But for women who think love can make them much smarter, it can also mean implementing effective strategies to win him back.
If you’re in the same situation, here are lines taken from five songs that will guide you how.
“If you leave me now, you’ll take away the very heart of me. Oh baby, please don’t go.” (Chicago)
Stop singing this song. Becoming desperate will only annoy him and drive him away. Men aren’t attracted with women who are too clingy. Let him be instead. By giving time on his own, you’d know his real intention for the breakup. Whether he needs space or more time for sports and work, so be it. Respect his decisions and you earn the same thing too.
“There’s a girl in my mirror crying tonight, and there’s nothing I can say to make her feel all right.” (Britney Spears)
It’s true. Anger and pain, no matter how tall your fence of denial is, will find a way to climb and get into your house. So just open the door and embrace them for awhile. Don’t let them stay for long, though. If they get comfortable in your dwelling, they will ruin everything you have.
“The greatest love of all is easy to achieve. Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” (Whitney Houston)
If you’re truly in love with a man, you’re also in love with yourself for you can’t give what you don’t have to others. When that man leaves you, you must hold on to your self-love for it’s the start of rebuilding your confidence to get him back. Cultivate your “me time” and do things that make you happy even without him. When he realizes that the woman he ditched knows what she wants in her life, you become more interesting in his eyes. And the my-boyfriend-dumped-me issue might turn into my-boyfriend-wants-me-again possibility.
“Doomed to crumble unless we grow and strengthen our communication.” (The Tool)
Communication has always been a powerful tool in every relationship. Your instincts will tell you when you are and when you’re not ready to talk. When the exact time has come, be reminded that men are not verbally expressive and naturally emphatic. If this irritates you, be patient and control your temper. Use words that will not hurt his ego. Outbursts, bitterness and sarcasm must be set aside. Otherwise, you might lose your chance for reconciliation.
“Now that it’s raining more than ever, know we’ll still have each other. You can stand under my umbrella.” (Rihanna)
If you want your ex back, you must not stop the communication to keep the friendship. You don’t send him emails and messages as often as before when you were still lovers but once in a while, ask him how he is or what he is up to. Remind him that when he still needs you, you’re ready to give a hand. However, don’t give him more than what you should. You’re being a buddy, not a martyr.
When a woman says, “My boyfriend dumped me,” remind her that love should be healthy even after the breakup. If she lives that definition, there’s a greater possibility that her ex will regret his stupidity and find a way back to her. Remember,being dumped isn’t always the end if you don’t want to.