While watching the people bustling at the intersection of Shibuya, Tokyo, Han (Sung Kang) told Sean (Lucas Black), “Life’s simple. You make decisions and you don’t look back.”
That is one of the scenes of The Fast and the Furious: Tokyo Drift. No, you don’t need to race a 10-second car to fasten the process of getting over a breakup. But his words will help you mend your broken heart in easier and wiser ways. The two sentences may sound very simple but its deeper meaning can be elaborated by the phrases listed below.
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Accept the past.
When you look back at your childhood years, there must be an incident that you wish you should have reacted or behaved differently. But since that decision belongs to that moment, only the fictional time machine can help you fix it. The same thing goes with your breakup. When you opted to end the relationship, it became part of your past. Even if you cry or booze hard, nothing can be done with the spilled milk.
Win the battle.
The battle between you and your emotions will come naturally after the separation. Pain is difficult to handle so it’s graspable if you’ll be caught off guard and retreat at first. But after awhile, when you’re called to make a stand, you’ll understand yourself better through your behavior under this difficult circumstance. If you lose, you go to an asylum of regretful patients. If you win, you get to do the next phrase.
Shout “Carpe Diem”.
“Carpe Diem” is the Latin phrase for “live in the present”. After leaving yesterday behind, make every minute you have productive. Go biking, fishing and bowling. Idolize Manny Pacquiao through punching bags or Mark Zuckerberg through developing social networking sites. Eat, pray and take photos. Ideas to smoothen the process of getting over a breakup gush forth. The only question is, “Where will you start?”
Look around you.
When your ex shut the door, it’s alright to open it back again. Don’t expect him or her to come back but certainly, people around you will check you out. Spend time with your family and friends and get strength from their love and care. It’s comforting to know they’re just around. Lovers may come and go but these people will stick with you through thick and thin.
Consider the future.
How? The second rule of Stephen Covey is, “Begin with an end in mind.” Do you imagine yourself holding hands with another lover? Can you picture out the scene when you see your ex with someone else but you feel no more ache? That’s great! Your goals will influence your thoughts and behavior.
When you’re done getting over a breakup, believe in magic again. As a song says, “It’s the lover not the love who broke your heart last night. It’s the lover not the dream that didn’t work out right.” Just take your past as a learning experience and make sure you don’t repeat the same mistakes in the future.
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