In the first stage of a relationship, you always say that magic is in the air. You get thrilled as both of you exert extra effort in making your first few dates engaging, romantic and memorable. But as time passes by, that romantic feeling melts away. With a woman’s natural longing for security in a relationship, you wonder how you will keep the music playing. You ponder over things that can get him to commit to your relationship.
Let him be himself
As how you’d deal with your best chums and close colleagues, get to know his true colors and let him be who he is. A man appreciates a woman who knows how to accept and praise his real identity. In the same way, don’t wear a mask on your face to hide your pimples. A man puts high regard to a girlfriend who’s comfortable with herself and who doesn’t feel awkward with his presence.
Communicate your ideas
Talk to him about anything under the sun. Don’t be scared to share your ideas, from the silliest joke you can think of to the highly philosophical aspects of war. As the golden rule suggests, listen to him with empathy as well. Bear in mind that communication breeds trust and trust breeds attachment.
Share your interests
Do stuffs you’re crazy about together. If you’re both food freaks, explore various cuisines available around. Compromise, if necessary, just like the way you do a favor for a buddy. If he’s into anime, try to recognize the powers of amazing ninjas in Naruto. Make your world bigger and better.
Make him feel special
Do say those three short words every now and then and mean it. Write him poems and letters, bake him a cake, plan birthday surprises and sing him songs. If you find these already centuries-old, come up with creative ways with the modern gadgets and updated technology.
Touch and be touched
To get him to commit to your relationship, touch him and let him touch you. It doesn’t necessarily mean spending the night sleeping in the same bed. Even your warm hugs and sweet kisses are more than enough to remind him how much you care. If you’re fond of ribbing him, tickle his armpit, nibble his ears or touch his toes with yours under the table. There can be a lot of ways to be playful or to manifest the art of physical seduction.
Introduce him to your family and friends
He’ll definitely feel proud if you ask him to join a family reunion or a gathering with your long lost friends. Let him express his opinions in a discussion or do a significant part during preparation for a party. With this, you address every person’s need to belong. It can be more rewarding for him as they are the people you interact with in your life.
Plan your future
As Antoine de Saint-Exupery said, love does not only consist in gazing at each other but also in looking together in the same direction. This is very crucial as it may call for major decisions in your career and aspirations. Take things as they flow. Don’t haste. After all, love isn’t a race.
Indeed, it is a serious challenge to get him to commit to you and your relationship. It isn’t easy, the road has plenty of humps. But a woman who is truly in love will do her best in keeping the song from fading too fast. And a man who values this may even hum a tune with her forever.